If You Do Nothing Else, Do the Bare Minimum
First dates can be nerve wracking, but there are some things you can do to increase your chances of success.
If you want a successful first date, you'll need to at least do the bare minimum. Here are some tips on what women expect:
Minimal Move #1: Plan
Plan the date. Take her to dinner. Take her for drinks and appetizers on the water. Take her somewhere! Ask for her input, but make a decision. Don't be wishy washy and expect her to suggest the venue. She wants a man who is decisive and can take charge. Be a man, have a plan!
Minimal Move #2: Drive
If you're meeting for the first time through a fix-up or online dating, drive separately. Otherwise, offer to pick her up and drive her to the date. This is traditional and considerate. Women like considerate. She may insist on driving herself, but you'll score points for offering. You don't want to get an F for effort on your first assignment, do you?
Minimal Move #3: Listen
When you're getting to know a girl, she expects you to be interested in what she has to say. Don't dominate the conversation by bragging about yourself the whole night. Of course a little sharing about your strengths and your passions is in order. But make sure you ask her questions about what interests her. Then listen, really listen. If you can't do that, you're likely to hear silence the next time you ask her out.
Minimal Move #4: Pay
Yes, it's old fashioned to expect the man to pay, but again, this is about effort. She's evaluating how invested in dating her you might be. If you're not willing to go to the trouble to pay for the first date, then you're showing that you don't value her company enough to make her feel appreciated. So dish out the dollars and show some sense!
Minimal Move #5: Compliment
As you know, first dates can be awkward. You're both wondering how much the other person likes you. You're trying to find common ground. You'll make her feel more at ease if you compliment her early on in the date. Something simple like, You look nice tonight will work, or you can compliment her eyes or smile later on in the evening. Warm words will warm her heart.
If you can make those moves, you're setting yourself up for the best date possible. Of course there's personality, chemistry, and other compatibility issues that will also affect the outcome. But no matter what, be polite when you meet, make her feel respected and special during the date, and thank her at the end.
Who knows? Even if it doesn't work out for you two, she might recommend you to a friend if you treat her right. Try to manage the bare minimum, and you might get another chance to show her your maximum charm.
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