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Dr. Susan: Your unthinking slip of the tongue about your girlfriend's looks falls under the category of unasked-for advice. No one wants it, and no one likes it. What's she supposed to think? Ugly is a harsh word, but what you did say is that, as she is now, she doesn't look as good as you wished she looked. That translates into her being "not good enough." Now if she was thinking about getting contact lenses, and she had asked you if you liked her without her glasses on, you could answer truthfully. Even so, it would have been best if you'd told her that you loved her however she looked, with or without glasses. It sounds like you made a suggestion that plays into her own insecurities. Some women loathe how they look in glasses, and the last thing they need is for those who supposedly love them to confirm that they aren't at their best when they need to wear glasses to see. Lesson to be learned: Don't volunteer opinions about how someone you love looks, unless those opinions are entirely positive. That goes for weight, bust or butt size, eye color, or anything else. Bottom line, SHE thinks she's unattractive with glasses, and you'll have to work hard to convince her that her eyes are so beautiful that you no longer notice the frames surrounding them.