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Q: I’m not sure how to tell my friend that her boyfriend is crossing a line. My boyfriend and I go out to dinner and bars with them, and sometimes we’ll stay over to avoid drinking and driving. The problem is that my friend’s boyfriend will come out in the morning in just his tight underwear and walk around for an hour like that, sitting and talking to us and even scratching himself sometimes. We’re not family, so this is just too much! I haven’t said anything because I just try to avoid looking. But we’re going on vacation with them and another couple for a week at the beach, and I don’t want to see all his bulges every morning when I get up. Do I tell my friend to do something about it or ask my boyfriend to tell him to put on some clothes? - Raven, 26

Dr. Susan: You have several choices. You can ignore his behavior and his bulges. Accept that he has bad manners and don't take it personally. He probably feels at home around you. Or you can make a joke of his cluelessness: "If you really must show off your junk like that, how about at least wearing something more stylish? Something with little hearts on it or little butterflies, or anything LITTLE?" Or you can ask your boyfriend to mention privately to him that you're uncomfortable with his near-nudity. If he won't, then ask your friend to pass along the info.