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Q: Can you judge someone by their Facebook page? I recently started dating a great girl. She’s smart and funny — but you’d never know that from her Facebook profile. She’s constantly sharing stupid motivational quotes, inane status updates and urban legends. Is this a sign or should I just ignore it? -- Drew, 32

Dr. Susan: Your question makes me smile. I have more than once had the experience of knowing someone in real life, whose Facebook postings make me want to barf. You wouldn't suppose a Facebook personality would be so different from the real one, but maybe the two personalities combined give you a better idea of who someone actually is.

Your new girl may be less smart than she appears, or at least less rational. You could certainly confront her about her sharing legends without verifying them first, but you probably won't make headway when it comes to those inspirational quotes so many Facebookers adore. So long as they're sharing positive quotes and not spewing hate, well, leave 'em to it. In other words, don't ignore her postings, but get to know her better before you decide if they're a hint of your eventual incompatibility.