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Q: How can you transition from hooking up to something more serious? I’ve been seeing this great guy for awhile, but very casually. I’d love to see if our connection extends into daylight hours, I just don’t know how. -- Trish, 24

Dr. Susan: You feel it's time to change the terms under which your relationship began. But if your hook-up guy is fine with things the way they are, it might not be easy or possible to get what you want. It's worth a try, though. Come right out and ask him on a daylight date. You can judge his interest in you as a person by the way he responds. Hook-up culture doesn't work to meet everyone's needs equally. If all he wants is to continue casually, you can then decide what's next for you, and with whom.