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Q: I used to hang around with this guy all the time. We were both very attracted to one another, but never actually dated. When our schedules changed, we no longer saw each other. I've tried to move on, but I can't seem to get him off my mind, no matter how hard I try or how many other dates I go on. I want to try to get together with him (for real this time), but I don't even know if he still feels the same way. While I'm pretty sure he's not "The One," I still like him quite a lot, and would appreciate any advice you could give me. – Jane, 18

Dr. Susan: All you can do at this time is to reach out casually, by email or however, and let him know you miss seeing him around lately. Then be brave and toss out the idea of getting together for a veggie burger or something. He’ll let you know if he’s with someone else, or isn’t interested anymore, and that may make it easier for you to move on. You have nothing to lose. And if you find out he’s “available,” you can see what happens next.