I had been on an on-line dating service for quite a while without actually meeting anyone, so when a man my age who interested me asked to meet, I readily agreed. We met in a quiet bar and talked for about two hours. When the band began, we danced some, but I had to get home and couldn't stay long. I liked him all right, we found lots to talk about, but there was no chemistry. Thinking I should give this a chance, I agreed to meet him for dinner that Saturday night. We met at a restaurant in a central location and went dancing afterward. We had a good time, but I still felt no chemistry. When he walked me to my car, he said he really wanted to see a movie with me the next weekend and for me to choose it. He had only my cell phone number and e-mail address, saying he knew women needed to be cautious. I thought he was a gentleman, anyway. But, he was leaving messages that went a little overboard about how smart, beautiful, wonderful in every way, etc. that he thought I was. I guess it all sounded phony. So I chose a movie, but because I had to work that Saturday, there was going to be a rush for me to get there much ahead of time. I suggested that I stop at the theater on my way home the day before and get the tickets, that way we would have seats if I was running late. So, I bought the tickets and had them when I met him at the bookstore next door to the theater on that Saturday night. He thought it was wonderful that I had gone ahead and bought the tickets. I said it was just practical. Anyway, the movie began and he put his hand on my leg. I realized right then that I was not attracted to him enough, because it only irritated me. I didn't want to be mean, but I did want him to stop. When he started rubbing on my hand, I told him that he was distracting me from the movie. He pulled his hand away and said, "Maybe I should just go." I said, "What?" He said, "I think I am making you uncomfortable. Maybe I should just go." I said, "No, you're not making me uncomfortable, I just want to see this movie." "No, I think I should go," he said. And picked up his coat and left. I watched the movie alone and wondered if he would have left like that if he had bought the tickets.
— Laura, 53