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By Patty Lamberti

We polled a group of women about what irks them most in the bedroom. Here are their biggest sexual grievances and how you can avoid committing such mistakes:

After he's done, it's over. Just because you're satisfied doesn't mean she is. Keep stimulating her until she's also satisfied.

Foreplay? What foreplay? Think of a woman as a crockpot that needs to be warmed up. You may be ready to go from the beginning, but she's not. If she moves your hands to a specific area of her body, take that as a clue that you should concentrate on that area. Chances are that when you think she's ready, she's not. Keep going at it.

We only kiss before sex. Women feel like the romance is gone when you only kiss her as a prelude to sex. When she least expects it -- as you watch TV or do laundry -- lay a big one on her. And don't try to get anything else.

He Doesn't Give Me Equal Oral Action. If you expect to be thrilled and pleasured by her mouth, make sure you eagerly return the favor. Enough said.

He can't find my G Spot. It's not a myth. Take some time to explore her body. Ask her over and over if you've found it.

We're in the mood for sex at different times of the day. She may like to have sex at night. You may like it in the morning. Sometimes you have to compromise and do it when you're not 100% in the mood. We bet you'll get into the mood pretty quickly.

He sticks his tongue in my ear to turn me on. What movie made you think this was appealing? Sure, a gentle tongue lap dance on the earlobe can be nice. But don't slosh around in the ear canal. Women have q-tips for that, thank you.

All dirty talk, all the time. Sure, women know you like to talk dirty. And we know how to do the job right. But that doesn't mean that every time we hit the sheets, we want to talk dirty. Sometimes a woman needs quiet sex. Or sex that only involves groans.

He's done too quickly. What she cares about is your ability to keep going. If you feel that you may finish too quickly, stop what you're doing and concentrate on her.

We always do it the same old way. Women need variety. Have sex in new places. And most importantly, learn some new positions. Check out an illustrated guide to the Kama Sutra.