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The modern dater's life is crazy-busy. Our work schedules are rarely 9-5. Technology is keeping us connected to the office after hours. We have fulfilling social lives with friends and family. And we've got to make time for our favorite hobbies and activities.

Exactly when are we supposed to fit in a few dates then?

Are you too busy to look for love? Keep reading.

Time Waster #1: Excuses, excuses

Is your no-room-for-romance lifestyle an unconscious attempt to deflect a relationship? Are you staying super busy so you have a good excuse turning down potential dates? Or to detract attention from the love that's missing in your busy life? Ask yourself what you're afraid of.

Time Waster #2: Poor planning

Lots of people say they don't have time for dating, but somehow manage to find time for a relationship when they meet the right person. So, figure out how much time you really have to devote to romance. Ask yourself how much time you'd be spending with a significant other if you had one. Put a number on it: how many hours per week? That's how much time you should be spending on the search.

Time Waster #3: Inefficiency

Don't waste whatever small free time you do manage to carve out on unavailable/married/obviously unstable partners. No more waiting around to see if something or someone changes when there's no evidence that it ever will. No more going to bars or parties and not talking to a single new person all night. If you've only got so much time, you've got to put that time to work.

Time Waster #4: Unnecessary tasks

If you want to make dating and relationships a priority, then you have to learn to say no to some stuff. Don't accept every little work project thrown your way (unless you truly believe you'd lose your job otherwise). Maybe skip the birthday party your boring Aunt Myrtle is throwing for her geriatric cat. Perhaps trim a little time from your fantasy football league, turn of the television or computer for a few hours.

Time Waster #5: Waiting around

Don't just wait around for love to find you, make a plan and a place on your calendar for it. Think about what kind of person you're looking for and find events, classes or volunteer opportunities where that person is likely to be. (i.e. you're looking for a likeminded foodie? Sign up for that 'cure your own bacon' class). You'll meet new people and create a little time for fun and relaxation.