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One of the most common - and persistently held - myth about women is that they prefer romantic sex to wild passionate abandon. Likewise, we hold true that men would rather have a crazy - if emotionally distant - romp than spend time setting the mood.

How true are these myths? We let He and She decide.

He Says:

There's definitely a time and a place for all kinds of sex. But I think guys get a bad rap for not being into the romantic stuff. Maybe that's because we don't really need the scented candles and the soft jazz to make sex feel significant to us. Feeling like we have to make it "romantic" makes me awkward, like I'm starring in some cheesy movie, and that can make your actions feel forced. I think it's much more romantic to have a natural, however-it-happens, experience.

She Says:

Even if you could make every lovemaking session the most emotional experience imaginable, would you even want to? Sure, sex can be romantic, but it can also be funny, animalistic, silly, or embarrassing. Just because it's a frenzied quickie on the dining room floor, and not a soulful, marathon "love making" session, doesn't mean I love my boyfriend any less. Sex can be meaningful; it just doesn't have to be all the time.