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Browser history, medicine cabinet, emails, mysterious boxes in the back of the closet. Sometimes it can be hard to resist. But should you?

He Says:

Snooping shouldn't be necessary. If the relationship is new, you'll probably find all that stuff out anyway and, by digging through his personal stuff too soon, you may risk finding something that makes you give up on a relationship without really giving it a chance. And, once you're in a more serious relationship, you should be able to talk about things instead of hacking into his email account. In a good relationship, you won't need to snoop: you'll already know each other faults.

She Says:

Snooping is just good personal safety if the relationship is very new. Who doesn't Google their date or check out their Facebook profile? And we're all guilty of looking for personality clues when we're in a date's apartment for the first time: scanning bookshelves, flipping through photo albums, looking for tell-tale women's hygiene products in a single man's bathroom. A little light sleuthing can help you get to know the "real" person - not the one who's on his best behavior when you're together. As long as it's legal - and doesn't require stake-outs outside his house - it's probably safe to indulge your curiosity.