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By Laura Snyder

For many couples in struggling relationships, counseling is seen as the last resort. But therapists say it's far too common that couples don't seek help until it's too late. By the time you make your first appointment, resentment and bitterness have built up, blocking the chance for real change.

When should you call in the pros? If you're experiencing any of these signs:

Love Trouble #1: Stress

Stress - from an unexpected job loss, a death of a loved one - can screw up even strong relationships. Anxiety can make us behave in strange ways; a sweet and thoughtful partner may become distracted or withdrawn. Couples in stressful situations may pull away from each other, instead of pulling together. A therapist can help couples manage their stress as individuals, so their union emerges stronger after that setback.

Love Trouble #2: Communication Crisis

You're trying to communicate, but your conversations seem to make never-ending circles. You end discussions feeling frustrated and confused. Or, maybe you avoid bringing certain subjects in conversation at all. Or even make an effort to avoid each other - by working longer hours or spending more time out with friends. Do you know that any conversation will turn into a shouting match? Often feel like you have nothing left to say? A counselor acts as a moderator to get you to open up again.

Love Trouble #3: Big Changes

Sometimes even good news, like a demanding new career or an eagerly anticipated baby, can take a toll on couples. Big new changes can alter the dynamic of a union. If your relationship suddenly takes a back seat to a new baby or job, resentment and anger can build. A little time on the couch can help you air out those feelings and reconnect.