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Sometimes your date makes it pretty easy for you to dump them. You have nothing in common, she chews with her mouth open, he collects his own toenail clippings, whatever.

But sometimes you find yourself needing to break things off with a perfectly nice person who, for whatever reason, just isn’t setting off “Till Death Do Us Part” vibes for you.

If your instincts are telling you this is one good thing that must come to an end, here’s how to do it.

Don’t Put It Off

There are all kinds of reasons for postponing the evil-doing – guilt, fear of facing the single life again, worry that you’ll ruin your good karma, dread that you’ll regret it, annoyance that you’ve invested so much energy. But, look at the big picture and you’ll realize you’re doing both of yourselves a favor. Now you each have the opportunity to meet someone better.

Be Honest

When it comes to ending it with someone who hasn’t broken your heart, honesty really is the best policy. Explain – emphatically, even – that it’s difficult for you to bring this up, since you don’t want to cause any pain, but be firm that it’s just not working. And really, if it’s not working for you, on some level, it’s probably not working for them either.

Silence the Self-Doubt

You didn’t really think that was the hard part did you? Sadly, it doesn’t get any easier just yet. Here come the second thoughts and regrets! Immediately after you call things off, you can expect to miss your new ex and be consumed by the memories of all the good things you just gave up. Give yourself time to mourn the loss of the relationship.

Don’t Go Back

There will certainly be days when you think you made a horrific mistake (it’ll probably be when you’re spending your third Friday night in a row in front of the television). Exercise discipline – no post-breakup booty calls! -- and wait out a better match.