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By Laura Snyder

Repeat after me: my partner is not a mind reader. If your lovemaking could use a tune-up from good to oh-my-god, it's time to speak up to your partner about how to make that happen. Any decent lover will be more than happy to do whatever it takes to make you scream in ecstasy....all you have to do is ask. Here's how to get everything you want:

Give It to Get It

You already knew that great sex is all about the give and take. But if you're not getting exactly what you want, be prepared to give it up first. If you want a gentle caress, a nibble here or there, or a passionate kiss, give your lover one first. Ask them if that feels good, and when they admit it does, request they try it out on you.

Get Hands On

If you're uneasy about vocally expressing your desires in bed, take a hands-on approach. When your lover's roaming hands manage to miss your hottest spots, take those fingers and put them exactly where you want them to be. If you're not shy about speaking up, play a little game of show and tell and explain exactly what actions delight you and why.

Reverse Psychology

We all love to think we're getting special treatment. Use this fact of human nature to convince your partner that doing something for you, is a favor for them. Innocently pose a few suggestive questions, like "Would you like to kiss me here?" or "Would you like to touch me there?" Your lover will think they're getting when they're really giving.

Lay On the Compliments

When your partner pulls the right trigger, don't be shy about piling on the praise. Make sure they know when they're on the right track and you're bound to see a repeat performance. If your lover hasn't done anything worth praising lately, try a false compliment - the kind that stars with "I love it when you..." Unless your request is too crazy (your partner will, after all, remember if you've ever done it dressed up like cartoon characters), your lover will assume that he or she has done it before - even if by accident -- and they'll love to try it again.