By Laura Snyder

Whether or not you like it or think it polite, email or text breakups are common, especially in younger couples who haven't been together long. Want to avoid an awkward breakup scene? Want to control the conversation? The solution is at your fingertips.

Just Be Sure First

The emergence of email, IM and text as breakup tools makes it more likely that you end a relationship on impulse rather than try to work out your issues. The one-sided nature of the breakup email means they never get the opportunity to discuss problems. So, before you click send, make sure you've given this some thought.

Spare the Painful Details

Don't get into too many specifics about why you're saying goodbye. Don't argue, explain, blame or ask questions: to do so only invites a response or an opportunity to talk you out of it. Choose your words carefully, since anything written is "on the record". Avoid saying anything you might later regret, or that will horrify you if the message is forwarded to everyone you mutually know.

Don't Lie

Unless it's true, don't say you're too busy for romance or "just not ready for a relationship right now"." It doesn't work very well if, for example, you still have your online dating profile up - and who knows if that excuse might somehow find its way to another potential match who will then think you're not available.

Don't Be a Jerk

Email breakups are best if you've only been out on a few dates and just aren't interested in taking things further. If things are more serious or you've been intimate, try to meet in person or at least pick up the phone.