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By Corry Stone

If you think something’s funny with your honey, it probably is. When you can’t put your finger on anything logical, just instincts, it can be hard to have confidence in that nervous feeling you’re getting. But at a minimum, you should look closer and not ignore that nagging knot in your gut.

When you’re doubting your instincts, you may decide to use your friends as a sounding board. The tricky thing is that if you ask five different friends for opinions, you’ll probably get five different answers. That’s because they’ve each had different experiences that shape the way they look at the world.

Your buddies might tell you that you’re overreacting. But you’re the one in the relationship. Your friends are only looking in from the outside. The opinion that matters most is your own.

Look for Clues
First, think about how you’re feeling…. Disappointed? Annoyed? Angry? Sad? Afraid? Then think about why that might be.

If you can figure out what’s feeding your doubt, you’ll have a better idea what you want to do about it. Did something happen? Or not happen? Did your honey start acting different? When did things change? Are you getting a different vibe? Are all these questions adding up to a minus sign?

If it’s early in your relationship, sometimes your sweetie might just need a little space to figure out if this dating thing between you is going to work. Finding the right balance between giving space and showing interest can be a challenge sometimes though.

Pay Attention to the Details
Again, that’s where your instincts are important. Keep in mind though, that if you’re only trying to meet your sweetheart’s desires and not communicating your own, then you’re not on strong footing. Once you have a handle on what’s causing your doubts, try to have a talk to clarify the situation.

Let’s face it though--your partner also could be off doing something that’ll cause a lot more distance than what you’d classify as a little space. If you don’t ask for more info, then you’re relying on your own imagination about what’s going on. It takes two to communicate, so you might as well start the conversation.

Although you might be wise to keep your doubts private until you can process your feelings, pushing them aside is only going to make them fester. You’ve got instincts for a reason. Use them to put you on the right path with your honey or to find a new destination alone, depending on what’s right for you.

Listen to your heart, your mind, and those nagging instincts, baby!