Stop Making Excuses for Your Honey
He's not texting very often. She keeps putting off your next date. He only wants to talk about sports. She only wants to talk about work.
If you're not getting what you want from your lover and you have a kind heart, you might be making excuses for them. You want to believe the best in people, don't you?
So you remind yourself that your guy is going through a rough time with his daughter. Or that your honey is worried about her sick dog. Or that you've both been too busy with work to talk on a deeper level.
And you decide that the lack of attention you're getting is just life stresses mucking up your relationship. It's a temporary thing. You should just be patient and back off.
I'm not saying that's wrong, but it might not be right for you. If you find yourself wondering what's going on in your relationship and dismissing your own concerns, you might want to rethink that approach.
Having an optimistic spirit is great. But seeing people for who they really are when they're with you is important.
If he's not finding time to talk to you, he's not making time to talk to you. If she's too busy with her friends and family to see you, she's choosing not to be with you.
We all have tensions in our lives, and we all have bumps in the road that we have to deal with. But if your sweetie isn't sharing those challenges with you and letting you help, then you're not an insider in their life. You're a playmate, not a best friend.
If that's the case, you'll do yourself a favor by staying outside and hanging out with other friends. Don't stay emotionally invested in someone who isn't investing time, energy and emotion with you.
Stop making excuses for the busy blowoffs and start making time for people who truly care about you and what's going on in your inner and outer world. Expect more and you'll get more. You deserve to be an insider!
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