Are You Falling in Love Too Fast?
Falling head over heels in love is exhilarating - and scary. But playing it too safe sucks all the romance (and fun) out of it.
If you think you've gone too far - you're, say, jumping on couches on Oprah - on the hormone rollercoaster we call love, here's our advice.
Swept Up or Swept Away?
It's okay to feel a little caught up in the throes of passion. But you shouldn't ever feel completely out of control. How can you tell which is which? Take note of how you feel about asserting yourself. Do you speak up easily when, for example, your new beau tells you not to do that movie you were planning? You shouldn't feel like you need to act a certain way, or do certain things, to avoid ruining the moment or the relationship.
Slow It Down
Kind of like the chain smoker who occasionally goes cold turkey, just to prove they're not hooked, you, too, can slow things down just to take stock of your feelings about your own addiction. No need to use the tired old cliché -- "need to take things slow" - which sounds like you want to break up. Instead, just make plans to hang out with friends or focus on your job (two things you've probably been ignoring lately). A little distance will be good for you both.
Control Your Impulses
Yeah, it is just so cute how you can't stop thinking about them. But that doesn't mean you really need to call for the tenth time today just to say so. And, yes, Tom, sometimes love does make you want to jump up and down on couches on national television. We do not advise that you actually do it.
Stop Planning for the Future (A Little)
It's okay to have the wedding planned, the children all named, and the family vacations mapped out - provided it's all in your head. If this is the real deal, those moments will come - for real - in time. But spending too much time dreaming about the future so soon usually indicates you're more into having any relationship than having this particular one.
Wait to Say 'I Love You'.
And, it should also go without saying, wait for proposals atop the Eiffel Tower and baby announcements. Sometimes circumstance - a really romantic dinner, a night of super-hot sex - makes us want to say or do things a little on the premature side. Try to hold back until you're sure (really, really sure, Katie) of your feelings and that they're reciprocated.
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