Do Women Want What He Wants?
Q: Is it normal for a female 34-year-old to not have any urge for intimacy? -- Brad
Dr. Susan: When anyone starts questioning someone else's normality, Brad, it's often a sign that two different personalities and perspectives are clashing. Rather than trying to learn what's precisely normal and what's not, why not deal with this woman directly and see what's going on? Individuals of both sexes have varying desires for closeness, for emotional intimacy, for time and space apart from everyone, and, naturally, for sex. Some females in their 30s are very interested in sexuality while others aren't the type to feel turned on until they meet someone really special whom they love or might love. What's so-called "normal" isn't relevant here. If she's madly in love with you and still has no interest or urge to get intimate, she might be saving it for marriage, or if you're already married (you didn't say), she could be angry about something, or depressed, or her hormones may be out of whack, or something else could be going on. Or, and it does happen, she may not be the intimacy-seeking sort. Some people aren't. Forget "normal," and get to know this particular person better.
Copyright © Fun Online Corporation
Advice for Her
Advice for Him
Susan K. Perry, Ph.D.
Susan K. Perry, Ph.D., is a social psychologist, relationship expert, and bestselling and award-winning author. Her books include Loving in Flow: How the Happiest Couples Get and Stay That Way, and Kylie's Heel, a novel for adults.
Pamela G. Chollet, Ph.D.
Dr. Pamela Chollet has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and Master degrees in educational psychology and fine arts. Her passion has been helping people face and get through those times when they feel trapped and unable to move forward.
Anna Charbonneau, Ph.D.
Anna Charbonneau, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, stress management expert, and author. If you're feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, or struggling to make changes in your life, Anna can help.