The Right Time to Break Up
Q: Is there ever a right time to break up with someone? I've been dating a girl for about six months and, in that time, I've come to realize we just don't have what it takes to make it long-term. I've recently met someone else whom I'd like to get to know better. I know I need to end things with her, but she just lost her job and is a little fragile. Am I a jerk to break her heart now? Should I stick it out until she's on firmer ground? --Andrew, 25
Dr. Susan: You wouldn't be doing her any favors by continuing to act like a couple once you want to date others. I suggest ripping the bandage off now, rather than stalling until she gets a job. It doesn't make you a jerk to give up on a relationship after six months. Just be honest and as kind as you can about it.
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Susan K. Perry, Ph.D.
Susan K. Perry, Ph.D., is a social psychologist, relationship expert, and bestselling and award-winning author. Her books include Loving in Flow: How the Happiest Couples Get and Stay That Way, and Kylie's Heel, a novel for adults.
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