Dislikes His Girlfriend's BFF
Q: I'm dating this awesome girl. We met in college and moved to the same city, and now I'm thinking about asking her to move in with me, but her best friend totally gets on my nerves. The idea of the two of them hanging out in my apartment makes me want to jump out the window. How do I keep the relationship and ditch the bestie? — Anthony, 24
Dr. Susan: Face it: you aren't going to be able to ditch your girlfriend's bestie at any point in the near future. You can gently let your awesome girlfriend know that her friend isn't the kind of person you typically like, and you hope that it will be okay if you either hang out by yourself in your bedroom when she's over, or maybe you could go out at those times, and would she not take it personally and be annoyed with you? It's going to take some compromising. See how she responds. If she defends her bestie to a point where you can't imagine it working, then you might have to ditch them both. But it shouldn't have to come to that!
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