Boyfriend Won't Acknowledge Her
Q: My so-called-boyfriend and I just took a trip to another state. We visited a chapel, and he was talking to some little old ladies outside when I came out. They asked him if I was his wife, and he told them I was his sister. I just stood there and looked at him and walked off. As I walked away, I heard him say, "I'm just joking." We were supposed to be there for 5 days, but even before we left he was looking for reasons not to go. We ended up only staying there for one day. Should I let go and move on? -- Pam, 51
Dr. Susan: It's always disappointing to find that your boyfriend (so-called or any kind) doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about him. I could forgive him for referring to you as his sister in that particular situation, as perhaps he was embarrassed in front of the little old ladies at the chapel. Still, if you put that odd behavior together with the change of plans about the trip, you would be well warned to re-think this relationship. If your gut tells you that things are going badly and can't be made better by a sharing of feelings, then moving on might be your best choice.
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Susan K. Perry, Ph.D.
Susan K. Perry, Ph.D., is a social psychologist, relationship expert, and bestselling and award-winning author. Her books include Loving in Flow: How the Happiest Couples Get and Stay That Way, and Kylie's Heel, a novel for adults.
Pamela G. Chollet, Ph.D.
Dr. Pamela Chollet has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and Master degrees in educational psychology and fine arts. Her passion has been helping people face and get through those times when they feel trapped and unable to move forward.
Anna Charbonneau, Ph.D.
Anna Charbonneau, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, stress management expert, and author. If you're feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, or struggling to make changes in your life, Anna can help.