Busy Mom Wants to Head Back to School
Q: I'm a stay home mom and have been for quite some time. But lately (actually, for the past three years) I've been having the urge to go back to school and become a teacher. When I told my husband this, I sorta made a joke about it because I was afraid of how he'd react. As expected, he was like, "Yeah, good luck with that and raising our three kids." Don't get me wrong. I love my kids but the last thing I want is to wake up one day in my 50s, my kids off on their own, and be being a sad mom with no skills. I am going to address this issue once more. But how can I get my husband to know that this time I really mean business? -Vicki, 33
Dr. Anna: It sounds like you know what's important to you, you just need to figure out how to make it happen. Returning to school is a great goal but it's going to take some planning to get you there. Before sitting down with your husband, do your research. Figure out where you would go to school, when classes are, what kind of time and cost commitment it's going to take. Then brainstorm the benefits—you'll be happier, you'll potentially be able to help out your family financially when you get your degree. Sit your husband down and give him a heads up, "Hey, I have something really important I want to discuss with you." Say what's on your heart, exactly what you said in your question, and recruit him into your plan! Sell him on the benefits, invite him to brainstorm with you on how to make the rest of the plan work, and go for it.
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